"Be the Best at Better"
I believe, true leaders might have glued above quote, on the surface of their mind, from where ‘ey can access it on a daily basis, and definitely have applied to their attitude frequently.
"How to win friends and influence people" (Worth Reading), is in the list of books I'd read. Dale Carnegie, the author of the book, wrote a section on how to be a better leader. I believe, he wrote some very effective and easily applicable tips which you can apply to be a better leader, or in your relationships, anytime !
I hope these tips will definitely help you to find better leader, sleeping inside your fertile mind, unconsciously!
As I did in my previous post, how to enjoy your job, I'm not going to change any of the author's words, and going to write those tips down for you.
(I'm looking like a nerdy typist right now, while copying lines from the book)
I've applied following tips for my personal relationships, and believe me, it really works !
(Read - where you can find your real happiness in life)
Let’s read, what Dale Carnegie wrote about leadership.
(I’m writing and re-re-reading).
He had used short inspirational story to let us feel the importance of its use, which I’ll try to conclude here.
1. if You Must Find a Fault, Begin with Praise and Honest Appreciation
Beginning with praise is like the dentist who begins his work with Novocain. The patient still gets drilling, but the Novocain is pain-killing.
2. You must Call Attention to People’s Mistakes Indirectly
Charles Schwab was passing through one of his steel mills one day at noon when he came across some of his employees smoking. Immediately above their heads was a sign that said ‘No Smoking’. Did Schwab point to the sign and say, ‘Can’t you read?’ oh no, not Schwab. He walked over to the men, handed each one a cigar, and said, I’ll appreciate it, boys, if you’ll smoke these on the outside.
3. Talk about Your Own Mistakes before Criticizing the Other Person
A short letter from a father, when he discovered his fifteen years old son was experimenting with cigarettes.
Naturally, I didn't want my son, David, to smoke. But, his mother and I smoked cigarettes; we were giving him a bad example all the time. I explained to David how I started smoking at about his age and how nicotine had gotten the best of me and now it was nearly impossible for me to stop. I reminded him about my irritating cough was.
I didn't exhort him to stop or make threat or warn him bout their dangers. All I did was point out how I was hooked on cigarettes and what it had meant to me.
‘He thought about it for a while and decided he wouldn't smoke for the entire life, and he didn't! ’
4. No One Likes to Take Orders
Instead of orders, real leaders would use following phrases,
‘You might consider this’, ‘Do you think that would work?’, ‘What do you think about this?’
5. Use encouragement, Make the fault seem easy to correct
Short paragraph from the chapter
Telling your child, your spouse or your employee that he or she is stupid or dumb at a certain thing, has no gift to him, and you’re probably doing it all wrong, and you destroyed almost every incentive to try to improve.
But use the opposite techniques – be liberal with your encouragement, make the things seems easy to do, let the other person know that you've faith in his ability to do it, that has an undeveloped flair for it – and he will practice until the dawn comes in the window in order to excel.
6. Making the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest
I’m sorry, there is a story of 3 pages about this tip; hope you’ll find the book.
(You can borrow mine, with genuine promise of returning it back, Land Mark: Ahmadabad only!)
Once you read a book, you’ll realize, Dale might have shared these tips from his personal experience, vast reading and with his soulful real compassion.
Reading his book, I’m getting more and more fascinated about learning effective leadership and enjoying relationships, meaningfully. Even I've tweeted lots of quotes about leadership like this, this, this and yeah this.
At last, I know there are many quotes, stories, and books about leadership, which your beautiful mind has passed across. If you can still memorize any of them, don’t miss to type it down in below and share it with a folk who is deeply interested in, Effective Leadership!
(Real leaders don’t hesitate to share their knowledge)